Breakups are naturally hard on most people. But they are even more difficult when the relationship is characterized by emotional over-involvement, which happens when each person in the relationship has difficulty separating their emotions from their partner’s emotions and “can’t live without” them. Another word for this is enmeshment. Enmeshed relationships require healthy and clearly stated boundaries. An example of a healthy boundary is, “I know it’s important we spend time together, but it’s also important to me to spend time with my friends tonight. I will spend tomorrow with you.”
It’s okay to forgive your partner for mistakes, but you always reserve the right to leave a relationship, as does your partner. However, both of you should understand that you are responsible for your own actions, not each others. You are not responsible to get your partner to stop cheating, and your partner is not responsible for your decision to stay in the relationship. If you decide to break up, clearly communicate this with words, but also clearly communicate this with your actions (don’t continue acting as if you’re in the relationship!). Without clear boundaries, enmeshed relationships are destined to repeat the same cycle and stay stuck in the same pattern.
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